Hello, and welcome to our adoption blog!
Today I’ve been thinking a lot about what I think the meaning would be of a “perfect match.” First of all, this is the same line of thinking that I had when dating in general and eventually meeting Esther. Is someone “perfect” if they disregard all of your flaws, sing your praises constantly, or clear your path of any challenge? I don’t think so. The next thing I started to consider were other terms for a “perfect” match and marriage. A partnership? A compromise? A union? To me, a “perfect” match, marriage, or union is not something that is without flaw or is easy, but rather the same way that the word perfect is used in the phrase “a perfect fit.”
None of us is the epitome of human virtue or vice, but rather a mishmash of humanity wrapped up in a tight bundle of nerves and sinew. Finding the “perfect” fit to me, means taking everything that makes each of us who we are and then coming together in such a way that instead of looking for some sort of niche win-win scenario or trying to meet some impossible standard, we meet in the middle and complete one another.
That is one of my favorite things about our marriage, our little family, and our purpose in adoption. We aren’t trying to be perfect and don’t expect anyone else to be so either. Instead we are looking to find the right (“perfect”) fit in adoption and to make a connection with the child(ren) and parent(s) that we will work with in our future adoption adventure.
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